We have had a lot of ups and downs. We're both college students, and his college is a huge distance from mine. Not just across the state, but halfway across the country. This has stressed things quite a bit. Family troubles and money troubles have weighed heavily on both of us. It doesn't help that I'm working and he isn't, but I don't think he's the kind of person to resent that hugely unless I'm completely missing it.
In January, during winter break, I felt that he didn't make any time for me (we both did have busy schedules, but I felt that he could have tried harder to spend time with me and spent the time better than we did). At the end of break, we broke up for a short period (like a day and a half) before talking to each other again and trying to work things out.
After that and the start of February was great. He really tried to make an effort. He was very sweet on Valentine's Day. I tried to play a multiplayer online game that he liked. We had fun and were spending time with each other. But we still weren't really talking to each other and connecting like we used to.
The last week of February and now March have been bad. Our spring break has been exactly like winter break. He talks even less. There is little to no connecting anymore, or much affection of any kind. He says he feels like he "can't talk to me anymore" and that all we do is fight. I feel like he just doesn't want to talk to me anymore, which he says is because all we do is argue about not talking and it's really not true. I do give him plenty of opportunity to talk to me and I've been trying since the break up to let things go, but I really just feel like I'm at my limit. I'm the kind of person that needs communication and some kind of demonstration of affection with some kind of consistency. Not a huge display, I don't even need a long phone call, just something. But it's like the more I want that from him, the less he does it. And the random hot/cold responses are starting to tick me off.
I don't know if I should try to confront him about how things are going again, which hasn't helped in the past, just leave it alone and hope it gets better again, or if I should just break it off cleanly and move on with my life. He has a year left for school, so a part of me wants to just wait it out until then, assuming I have the patience (doubtful).
Edited by Amaryllis, 17 March 2012 - 03:29 PM.